We all went out to eat last night, and one of the boys said that on the way. It reminded me immediately of this conversation I’ve shared before:
Nathan: “Dad, what’s it like to have a stepmother?”
Bo: “Son, don’t worry about it, because you’ll never have one.”
Our children are old enough now to have a less varnished look at the lives of those with divorced parents, and this was a spontaneous utterance (with us) based on such. It introduces difficult problems for which there are no good solutions, and for which there are no analogs outside broken homes.
Certainly, with everyone making considerable effort, many children adapt and have good lives. But they are never the same.
To be sure, divorce is indicated sometimes. Nevertheless, it remains an exceptionally grave step deserving exhaustive prevention efforts.
(Frankly, I was glad to have the little bit of juice. I beat myself up too easily for my shortcomings as a parent. At least we have this big thing right.)
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