Longtime readers may recall I did a little social exploring on AshleyMadison.com a while back. AshleyMadison.com is a dating site for people looking to cheat on their spouses.
It should be clear I don’t think much of this idea.
Perhaps an industrious bot has harvested my email address and associated it with a mention of the site. For whatever reason, I’m getting a pretty steady stream of spam from them lately. The one I got this morning said:
AshleyMadison.com guarantees you will sleep with a married woman. The #1 rule if you’re having an affair is never to do it with a single woman. Instead, date a married woman who has just as much reason to keep your affair a secret as you do.
(Emphasis in original.)
It kills me the way they set this up. “Just as much reason to keep your affair a secret as you do” means there is something to lose here, right? Well, here’s a crazy idea. Why not put your energy into trying to save this thing you’re implicitly acknowledging has substantial value, rather than actively subverting it? Hey, guess what? I bet you find it easier to live with yourself, too.
On this, as with most things, I am libertarian. I’m not going to call for the end of AshleyMadison.com, and I would never suggest you be legally forbidden from cheating on your spouse.
But I’ll tell you it’s a bad idea. Turn inward, not away.
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