Jan 132015

I see people I’ve known for decades throw all the levers to full reverse in an effort to send their lives in some radically different direction—with their families, with their careers, with anything they can change (or think they can change). (I’d actually dearly love to know what one is thinking, but she and I haven’t been in regular touch in several years, and it looks really silly from the outside, and I doubt she’d receive a WTF? call from me favorably.)

I know I’m blessed. Lea and I have been together for 20 years, and in May will have been married for 18. I love our church dearly. I’m making a living in the same close family of fields I decided I wanted to go into in 1991. My sole large regret is that I smoked cigarettes, and my only (mildly) wistful tug is that I wish I’d gone away to college.

I spend essentially no time agitating about what might have been.

How much of that is that really good things have happened to me?

How much of it is that I’ve consciously chosen not to manufacture discontent?

 Posted by at 8:39 pm
Jan 012015

That’s as complicated as my New Year’s resolution is this year.

I’m going to set the cruise at 72 instead of 77 on the interstate.

I’m going to stop looking at my finances through a lens of “if I’d only done x ten years ago…”

I’m going to concentrate on a generally good dietary and activity path, and let an occasional lapse go without a second thought.

I’m going to sit on more email and voice mail overnight before responding.

I’m going to pray to see and act on God’s will more, and not for what I think I want.

I’m going to take due credit for small victories working around the house, rather than consider the enormity of everything I didn’t do today.

I’m going to stop picking at my wife trivially when she doesn’t respond exactly like I think she should have.

” ” ” ” ” ” ” kids ” ” they don’t ” ” ” ” ” they ” “.

I’m going to consider our country’s direction more in the context of the serenity prayer than I have been.

I’m going to read more. I’m going to watch Netflix less.

I’m going to give myself a break.

I’m going to relax.

Happy 2015, BoWilliams.com readers. Thank you for reading.

 Posted by at 1:20 pm
Nov 262014

Paula Poundstone had a great bit about naps. Basically she said they were an indicator of adulthood. When you wanted one instead of resented one, you were a grown-up. I’ll buy that. I remember my mandated naps from childhood. I went to sleep maybe once every fifteen or twenty naps. Most of the time I […]

 Posted by at 10:11 pm
Sep 292014

“A woman deserves equal pay for equal work.” – Barack Obama, January 28, 2014 Women make 77 cents for every dollar men make for the same work. This is particularly egregious discrimination that we ought to be past by now, don’t you think? Hmmm. This statistic always gave me pause. For one thing, I couldn’t […]

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