Sep 292015

I think this morning I finally had my Eureka! moment on why I’ve been bumping along.

I’ve been wasting time. And it’s generated formidable guilt.

How have I been wasting time? Oh, just in a general kind of way. I’ve not been making consistently good decisions about what I allow to capture my time and attention as I go through the day/week/month/year. I’m not doing enough of what I really want to be doing. I look back at what I’ve done over a period of time, and say “yeah, all right, but what else?”

I’ve not sufficiently appreciated how blessed I am. There are a lot of people who get up and turn the crank every day just like I do, except they’re also saddled with marital discord, addiction, financial difficulties, or any number of other significant rucksacks of misery, of which I am thankfully free.

But doesn’t that reasonably compel me to make that much more of what I’ve been given?

Moreover, it’s yet another arena in which to make a significant error of perspective–what I’ve come to think of as the “well at least” trap. I’ve written of approaching parenting that way, too. “Well, at least I’m not as bad as that guy.” Wow, really? That’s the line I’m going to use? Relativity can be quite seductive.

I want to keep my expectations realistic, but I also want to be honest with myself about my capabilities, and frankly, a baseline measurement of “yeah, things are going OK” is beneath them.

Here is a day/week/month/year–a glorious gift from God. What will I do with it?

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Sep 082015

Do you know the rock star/comic/artist/raconteur Ali Spagnola? You should. She’s really talented and tons of fun. She has a drinking game album (and concert)!

She has an awesome Twitter feed, which is where I was introduced to her. She posts a lot of Vine videos (and you really should just go watch everything she’s ever put up there right now. Just be late to whatever you have to do next.)

She also paints a painting a day and gives it away! And I got mine today! I asked her to paint one of my favorite things in the world.


Isn’t it awesome? Lea’s working on having it framed, and then we’re hanging it in the kitchen.

You can ask Ali to paint something for you too, but the waiting list is long. (Pssst…if you do send her a bit of money you’ll magically jump in front of people who didn’t.)

Ali, I love my chili pepper, and I love the laughs. Thank you for both!

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Aug 282015

In March 1998, Charles, T.J., and I drove to a club in northern Atlanta called The Outer Edge to see Saxon supporting their new album Unleash the Beast, on their first U.S. tour in more than 12 years. It was one of my favorite live music experiences ever. Saxon formed in 1976. They are true […]

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Aug 242015

I’d call the debacle a train wreck, but that’s not enough. It’s like a train carrying a tanker of airborne Ebola virus crashed into a trailer carrying an unstable nuclear warhead. It’s now apparent that the average paid user spent hundreds of dollars on the service, and some spent thousands. “What are they […]

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Aug 212015

It’s hard to overstate how disruptive the data dump could ultimately be. It’s an event without precedent. The sociology could be fascinating for years. Despite my longstanding strong feelings about cheating, I have significant concerns about this. Doubtless there are people caught in this who registered, then repaired their marriages and forgot about their […]

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