Jun 132017
 

I review a book once in a while on BoWilliams.com, but I can’t recall ever posting a “pre-review” before I’m done with it, as I’m doing right now with Primal Loss: The Now-Adult Children of Divorce Speak by Leila Miller.

My parents divorced in February 1982. I was not quite 11 years old. My younger sister had just turned 8. It was easily the most significant event of my childhood, and I have many memories of the way things were before vs. the way they were after. Furthermore, I have strong opinions on it—some longstanding, others more recently formed.

It’s rather difficult to write or talk about it without sounding self-pitying, and to a significant degree I sympathize with those who would say so. We play the cards we’re dealt.

But this book is also an important counter to a lot of “progressive” thought that says things like concern about children should be an input into the decision, though perhaps not a primary one. Or, my favorite: “kids are resilient.” Yes, kids bounce back because for the most part, human beings bounce back—but that doesn’t mean they’re the same.

The book is not fun to read (how could it be?). I am nevertheless enjoying it because I’m finding kindred spirits saying things I completely understand—and in a few cases, vocalizing thoughts I’ve always had but never expressed.

More to come in a full review soon.

 Posted by at 11:27 am
Jun 072017
 

The boys and I were recently discussing one of the terror acts committed against civilians in the name of Islam—in this case, a shooting attack.

“Of course it’s always important to be vigilant and aware of your surroundings, but I’m not particularly worried about that kind of thing happening here.”

“Why not, Dad?”

“Because as soon as some poor bastard got ‘Allahu akbar!’ out of his mouth and/or raised a firearm in a threatening manner, he’d be hit from at least three different directions, dropping him instantly. The only thing the police would have to deal with when they eventually got there would be two good ol’ boys and a sweet, soft-spoken, pretty, impeccably dressed lady arguing over whose bullet had killed him. And the bad guys know that.”

 Posted by at 12:18 pm
May 162017
 

Donald Trump was inaugurated as our 45th president on January 20. Since then, I’ve been mostly quiet—and somewhat bemused. Because you see, according to the shrieking hordes, the end is nigh. The election of Trump is the final piece in place for the destruction of the United States. (Doesn’t it seem like said destruction should […]

 Posted by at 12:39 pm
May 022017
 

Longtime readers know I’m a big advocate for remaining faithful to your spouse. I got a little spun up on it late last week and needed to do something with my agitation, but it actually played rather well into a larger post series I’m preparing. So I’m thankful for that too. And it’s got me […]

 Posted by at 5:01 pm

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