Oct 212014
 

Raising children is a lot of work. (Thank you, Captain Obvious.)

You ever think about the nature of the work, though? Up until they’re about three, it’s mostly physical. You’re going pretty hard, but a lot of it is mindless, or nearly so. Keep ‘em out of stuff, keep their tummies full, keep ‘em bathed. Repeat.

Then, it gets a little squirrelier. There is still stuff you need to keep them away from, but they’ve also developed this tendency to do things on their own–and maybe when you’re not watching. So “no no” becomes “don’t drink bleach” or “don’t play in traffic.” Still pretty straightforward, but a bit more complex.

And then comes adolescence.

One of the greatest challenges I’ve faced so far as a father is trying to help Nathan with a vague but complex problem, using terms he’ll understand, so that he’ll be better equipped to handle future similar occurrences. He’s dealing with one right now.

I’m not going to get into the particulars because they’re not important and I don’t want to foster any misunderstanding. It’s just one of those life situations in which there are multiple principals, less-than-ideal channels of communication, and a little too much assumption.

All of which has resulted in an undesirable situation for Nathan, yet one in which we can’t clearly point to any single step in the progression and say “right there you zagged and you should have zigged.”

His mistake was one of systemic nonchalance; of assuming things were fine because he had not heard differently. The corrective action is nebulous, but critical: always remember that given situation X, nobody cares more than you do how you do.

It’s hard for a kid to understand that things can get screwed up for him even when no one, including himself, is acting with malice or even particular incompetence.

He certainly needs to get it, though. Shepherding one’s interests effectively is a necessary skill forever.

 Posted by at 10:30 am
Oct 172014
 

ebolaCharles C.W. Cooke makes his 7,954th great point today: while fear of a widespread Ebola outbreak in the Unites States may be irrational, fear of government incompetence is eminently reasonable.

Can these people do anything right?

Quarantine? Yeah, probably a good idea unless you, you know, crave your favorite restaurant. We don’t need a travel ban. We’re considering a travel ban. A “violated protocol” infected that nurse. (“Mistakes were made,” anyone?) We don’t need an Ebola czar. Oh, now we do, and a partisan hack lawyer with no medical background is just the guy for the job.

I spend significant time arguing against government’s truly massive overreach into our lives, and the deplorable ongoing practice of normalizing it for younger generations. But this is exactly the sort of crisis that requires quick and authoritative action, and the Obama White House apparently can’t deliver it.

To point out such is no cheap political ploy, as much as Democrat attack dogs would like you to believe that.

I suspect the United States will once again be Ebola-free sooner rather than later. I wish I could see evidence that the ostensible leader of my country were working harder and smarter to bring that about.

 Posted by at 3:25 pm
Oct 162014
 

With the passage of a little time, I’m appreciating Alabama’s defensive performance last weekend more. And we should have an easier time moving the ball this week. If we can avoid the unfathomably bad punt handling, I think Saturday may look better. I made stuffed shells last night that were just okay. I dislike putting [...]

 Posted by at 10:27 am
Sep 252014
 

Looks like Beloved is the next selection for Alabamians Can Read. Check it out. Pick it up. Join us. I tried two new-to-me drink lines this week: LaCroix sparkling water and Zevia soda. I’ll finish the LaCroix that I bought, but I’m unlikely to get it again. The Zevia, however, is an intriguing product. Zevia [...]

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